The foundation of society is a marriage between a man and woman who have committed themselves to each other and to God in lifetime union and are open to the generation of new life. Today the family is under attack by those who would place other living arrangements on par with a man and woman united in marriage and also by those who promote contraception, sterilization and abortion. We must be unafraid in answering these attacks and look to the Holy Family as a model.
How can the Holy Family be a model for families today? Their situation was unique in that Mary was perpetually a virgin in view of her role to be the Mother of God.
The Holy Family is a model of self sacrifice. They faced situations that many families face today.
Mary was a young woman faced with an unplanned pregnancy. She fulfilled God’s will by saying yes to the message of God delivered through the Archangel Gabriel, but she needed to place her absolute confidence in God’s protection and providence. The penalty for being found pregnant outside marriage according to Jewish law was stoning to death. But Mary said yes to life. She placed her hope in God, even though she had no health insurance and no guarantee of future income. She trusted God would provide for her and her family.
Joseph is a model for husbands in that he cared for Mary and Jesus during Mary’s pregnancy. He protected them by taking them into Egypt to escape the evil Herod. Like St. Joseph, men are called to be guardians and defenders of life. Fatherhood, like motherhood, begins not at birth, but at the moment of conception in the womb.
Joseph is also a model for fathers in that he taught Jesus his trade of carpentry.
Both Mary and Joseph trained Jesus in the ways of faith. Some think that after Jesus was found in the Temple at the age of 12 that he began formal studies to become a Rabbi. His followers called him “Rabbi” and no one questioned his credentials in this regard, not even his enemies.
Traditionally St. Joseph is considered to be the patron of a happy death since he is believed to have died in the company of Jesus and Mary. We believe that Mary and Jesus cared for St. Joseph at the end of his life on earth. So we are reminded that life is precious up to the moment of natural death. Deliberately acting or withholding treatment to cause death is always wrong. We are not required to use extraordinary means to preserve life, but euthanasia is always wrong. There is a world of difference between death take its natural course, accepting it as a part of life and deliberately causing death. Food and water must always be given to a sick person on the progression toward a natural death.
Mary is also a model for those who mourn, having lost her husband early in life and seeing her only son die on the cross. She reminds us to trust in God, knowing that he is close to the brokenhearted. She is also a model of forgiveness as she forgave those who were responsible for his death.
Even right after his birth Jesus faced danger. Herod was afraid of losing power so he searches for the infant Jesus who he considers a potential future rival in order to kill him. Even as an infant, Jesus was a sign of contradiction to the world. This reminds us of the conflict between a culture of life and the culture of death that we see in our day.
In January of 1999 Pope John Paul II visited St. Louis and spoke of a great conflict occurring in our coutry today between “a culture that affirms, cherishes and celebrates the gift of life, and a culture that seeks to declare entire groups of human beings -- the unborn, the terminally ill, the handicapped, and others considered 'unuseful' -- to be outside the boundaries of legal protection."
In 1994 Mother Teresa spoke of the harm abortion has done to America when she said "America needs no words from me to see how your decision in Roe v. Wade has deformed a great nation. The so-called right to abortion has pitted mothers against their children and women against men. It has sown violence and discord at the heart of the most intimate human relationships. It has aggravated the derogation of the father's role in an increasingly fatherless society. It has portrayed the greatest of gifts -- a child -- as a competitor, an intrusion, and an inconvenience. It has nominally accorded mothers unfettered dominion over the independent lives of their physically dependent sons and daughters"
“And, in granting this unconscionable power, it has exposed many women to unjust and selfish demands from their husbands or other sexual partners. Human rights are not a privilege conferred by government. They are every human being's entitlement by virtue of his humanity. The right to life does not depend, and must not be declared to be contingent, on the pleasure of anyone else, not even a parent or a sovereign."
It was both Pope John Paul II’s and Mother Teresa’s hope, that Americans of every race, ethnic group, economic condition and creed would resist the culture of death and choose to stand steadfastly on the side of life. One crucial element of that choice is that the nation continues to honor and revere the family as the basic unit of society.
What can we do to defend the family? First we can promote chastity. The foundation for marriage is the virtue of chastity. Chastity should not be understood as a repressive attitude, but rather the temporary stewardship of a rich and precious gift to be realized in each person’s specific vocation. Chastity respects God’s plan for human sexuality and his plan to transmit new human life.
We can also help women who are pregnant to make a choice for life. In his Letter to Families in 1994 Pope John Paul II recalled the Lat Judgment scene in the Gospel of Matthew. When Jesus will say to the blessed "Come, O blessed of my Father... for I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, I was naked and you clothed me…" (Mt 25:34-36). He tells us that his list could be lengthened to include countless other problems relevant to married and family life. There we might very well find statements like: "I was an unborn child, and you welcomed me by letting me be born"; "I was an abandoned child, and you became my family"; "I was an orphan, and you adopted me and raised me as one of your own children". Or again: "You helped mothers filled with uncertainty and exposed to wrongful pressure to welcome their unborn child and let it be born".
Pope Benedict XVI has been equally strong in his defense of human life and the family. In November of 2007, Pope Benedict XVI visited Kenya and instructed the bishops that “[w]hen you preach the Gospel of Life, remind your people that the right to life of every innocent human being, born or unborn, is absolute and applies equally to all people with no exception whatsoever."
All of us have a role to play in strengthening the family and defending life. We should pray to the Holy Family today that they may grant us the grace to be faithful to our mission to build a new culture of life where each family will be a sanctuary of love and life, where every human being will be welcomed, protected, nurtured and loved from the moment of conception to the moment of natural death.